My relationship with my father has made it impossible for me to trust men

I have a severe distrust of men, stemming most likely from an emotionally fraught and conditional relationship with my father, who was an unfaithful and bad-tempered man. This distrust has now affected my ability to believe that my partner loves me and had placed itself in the middle of my relationship. I recently found some porn on my boyfriend's phone and felt immediately inferior, jealous, disgusted, not good enough, ugly and repulsed. How do I learn to believe that some men are actually trustworthy?

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